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What is Male Chastity?

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Black Steel Male Chastity Cage

Getting started in the world of male chastity can be daunting. It’s worth the effort though, as chastity can be filled with rewards for everyone involved in the relationship. Learn the ropes in our introduction to male chastity.

What is Chastity?

If you’ve ever taken much interest in history, then you might have heard of a chastity belt. Women would be forced to wear these to make sure they saved themselves for their husbands. The belt would be secured by a lock or chain, and the woman would have no way to remove it.

Modern chastity is a little different from the historical myths, but the core idea is the same: staying chaste.

Chaste Definition: Choosing not to take part in sexual intercourse, particularly outside of marriage.

Chastity is the simple act of staying chaste, and male chastity is chastity performed by men. With us so far?

Why Do Men Get Locked in Chastity?

Of course, choosing to stay chaste requires a lot of willpower, and some guys just can’t cut it. No matter how much they try, or what promises they make, they just can’t help playing with themselves.

So how do we solve this problem? We lock them up!

Similar to the historical chastity belts that turned out to be mostly myths, many men choose to lock their penis away and throw away the key! Or at least give it to a willing partner.

It might seem drastic, but the act of physically locking up your penis can be very powerful. Obviously he won’t be able to play with himself, but the cage also serves as a constant reminder of the promise he made to himself, his partner, or a stranger on the internet.

Being totally cut off from a body part can be very stimulating too. Think about all those times you’ve had an itch you just can’t scratch. It’s the same with male chastity. Once his penis is locked away, he’ll want nothing more than to get it out and enjoy himself.

But he can’t.

The temptation will keep building, making him hornier, more willing to do what his partner asks, anything just for a little release. Then when it finally comes, it’s more explosive than any orgasm he’d have as part of his daily masturbation ritual.

Seems simple enough, but how do you actually lock up a penis? Meet the male chastity cage.

What is a Male Chastity Cage?

Cellmate chastity device

Cellmate V2 App Controlled Chastity Cage

If you’re looking to add a chastity dynamic to your relationship, then the male chastity cage is going to be your new best friend. These devices are deviously simple, but come with many different options to tailor your experience exactly the way you want to.

At its core, most male chastity cages are made of two parts; a ring and a tube.

The Ring: The ring is the first part of the cage you’ll put on. It’s very similar to a cock ring, but it goes around both the penis and the testicles. The ring will usually contain pins to connect to the rest of the cage.

The Tube: The tube is the main section of the cage that will encase your penis. This is placed over the shaft, then connected to the ring with a series of pins. Once attached, the tube can be locked in place.

What Does a Chastity Cage Do?

Obviously a chastity cage will stop a man from getting access to his penis, but they also serve several other functions.

The primary benefit of wearing a chastity cage is that it will stop a man from getting an erection. The cage will be tightly fitted to his flaccid penis, so when he starts to get erect his penis will push against the cage.

Often this can be painful, and the pain will encourage him even more to avoid sexual thoughts. Over time, the lack of erection will make him think about sex less and less, until he’s completely under the control of his partner.

The cage can also be a gateway into many other kinds of sexual adventure. Various chastity kinks, like cock and ball torture or bondage, can add to the experience. He might want to try some chastity games or some tease and denial. The sky really is the limit.

Male Chastity Rules

Putting on the cage is the first step, but most men will need a strict set of rules to follow as part of their pledge.

Chastity Pledge: The promise a man makes when he begins a male chastity relationship. This includes any rules he has to follow, and can be a promise to himself or another person.

The most common way to lay out the ground rules is a chastity contract. The contract will lay out the key commitments made by the man, such as:

  • When he should be caged.
  • How long he should be caged for.
  • Whether or not he will be allowed to orgasm, and what he has to do to orgasm.
  • Any other kind of sexual play allowed, such as bondage, bdsm, anal play, cock and ball torture, etc.
  • How often he will be released for cleaning.

If the relationship involves another person, the contract will also lay out how they will be involved in the relationship. This can include things such as:

  • Where the key will be kept.
  • Anything the partner is allowed to do to the locked man.
  • Anything the man needs to do to please the partner, such as oral sex, nipple play, massages, etc.
  • Punishments the man will be given if he fails to stay chaste.

What is a Chastity Kink?

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Lightweight Steel Chastity Cage (With Urethral Tube Added)

Once you’ve got the hang of the basics, many men like to take their chastity pledge to the next level. There are a bunch of different ways to do this, and they’re often referred to as chastity kinks.

Kink: An unusual sexual preference. Something not done by more “vanilla” men or women.

One of the most common chastity kinks is to simply be locked up for longer and longer periods. Eventually a man might want to spend all of his time wearing a cock cage, often known as permanent chastity.

There are many other kinks to explore, some much more challenging and niche than others. Common examples include:

  • Dominance and submission
  • Bondage
  • Anal play
  • Sounding and penis penetration
  • Electrostimulation
  • Cock and ball torture
  • Pain play
  • Roleplay and animal roleplay

Whatever kind of fantasies you have, there are plenty of fun and interesting ways to incorporate them into a chastity relationship.

The Male Chastity Lifestyle, And Why People Lead it

For many men and couples, chastity is simply something to be enjoyed in the bedroom. A fun change from their usual sexual activities. Others turn it into a full lifestyle, bringing the fun into all areas of their lives.

These couples will often take on the dynamic of slave and Mistress. The Mistress takes control of the situation, becoming the dominant partner. The slave is there for Mistress’s pleasure, doing anything and everything he can to make her life better.

A slave and Mistress dynamic isn’t just restricted to your home. There are plenty of clubs or networks of like-minded people who are happy to share their experiences, and their slaves. You can even explore chastity online, with both long-distance devices that can be locked by someone many miles away and long-distance Mistresses who will communicate via email or message board.

Chastity Couples

Of course the most rewarding way to practice male chastity is in a loving, committed relationship. When you can fully trust your partner, you can be free to fully explore all the different aspect of this interesting sexual practise.

Couples are able to take many chastity elements further. When deciding on the dynamics of the relationship, you can include things such as household jobs for the slave, regular pleasure sessions for the Mistress, and even indulge in fetishes such as financial domination.

A man will also be much more willing to go the distance if it’s for someone he loves. This commitment can truly take his pledge to the next level.

Chastity Keyholder

However you end up practicing male chastity, one thing’s for certain. You’re going to need a keyholder!

Chastity Keyholder: A person (or device) that looks after the keys to a man’s chastity device, denying him the ability to unlock himself.

If you’re in a relationship, or exploring chastity with a Mistress in person, then it’s simple. They’ll look after your key. For everyone else, things are a little more difficult.

One option is to take advantage of a keyholding service. These are independent companies who look after the keys of many slaves. Some may provide a more personal service, allowing you to talk to a Mistress via email or letter. Others will simply take your keys, then send them back when you ask for them.

Another option is to try to seek out your own Mistress online. There are many message boards and forums filled with both Mistress’s and other slaves. Often they will exchange details, and can take part in long distance chastity relationships with the keys being sent via post.

If you’re on your own though, the best option is to take advantage of some of the more advanced chastity products such as Cellmate. These devices can connect to your phone and be locked via bluetooth, either directly locking the device, or locking your key away. Most also come with a timer option, letting you take total control of your chastity.

Do Men Enjoy Being in Chastity?

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Lightweight Steel Chastity Cage

If you’re a complete newcomer to male chastity, then at this point you might be wondering: “Do men actually enjoy it?”

Spending a little time online should give you the answer. They love it!

There are many different reasons, such as the loss of control, temptation, great orgasms, getting in touch with their partner, or exploring new sexual fetishes. Whatever your personal preferences, there’s plenty of pleasure waiting for you in male chastity.

Can You Wear Chastity Cages in Public?

Another common question we get asked is whether or not you can wear a cage in public. We’ve mentioned a few times in this article that men want to stay locked up for longer periods, which could mean they need to wear a cage to work, shopping, the gym, or anywhere else they go.

The simple answer is; any cage can be worn in public. Which you choose will depend on exactly what you want from your cage.

Some will leave a big, bulky bulge under your trousers, that another person could easily notice and suspect something is up. Some men (and Mistresses) like this, as it plays into the humiliation aspect of chastity.

Other cages are much more streamlined, and you can wear them comfortably and privately without anyone ever suspecting a thing!

Start Exploring Male Chastity Today

So what are you waiting for? Male chastity can be a fantastic, rewarding experience for both men and women alike. All you need to do is take the plunge and give it a try by picking up your first chastity cage!

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Michael Cole

Michael is the author of the Total Chastity Diary and has been in and out of chastity since his mid-thirties. He’s now 41. He lives and works in Boston, has a white-collar job, and is single by choice. 

“There’s nothing hugely special about me. I’d describe myself as your typical modern, forward-thinking guy. I enjoy sports, staying healthy, love my family and friends, and have a satisfying career that pushes me to work hard so I can enjoy some of life's luxuries. 

I’m whatever constitutes as “normal.” It just so happens that I also enjoy the feeling of putting my cock in a cage, leaving it there for a week or two, then reaping the benefits of being released from my cage. 

Starting my chastity journey felt like starting any other new hobby or interest. I wanted to make sure I was doing it right and had good equipment to help me achieve the results I wanted. But when I began looking into male chastity and cock cages, what I found was a lot of fetish talk. 

While I accept this is what male chastity means for some - dressing up as a sissy, being spanked by a Dominant and whatever - the kinky kicks aren’t what I’m into. 

My hope with the Total Chastity  Diary is to bring a more matter-of-fact voice to chastity experiences.”

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