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Permanent Chastity: Your Journey to Long-Term Lock-Up

Cold Steel Cage

Cold Steel Male Chastity Device

Permanent chastity. The holy grail. The thing that slaves around the world aspire to. But is it a realistic goal? Or simply a fantasy that can never be achieved? Let’s find out.

How Permanent is Permanent?

Let’s start by dispelling one of the most common misconceptions. Just because it’s called permanent chastity, that doesn’t mean that the cage is never coming off. There is, of course, still regular cleaning sessions to be done, so it should still be coming off at least once a week.

You’re also still entitled to a break for any number of reasons. It could be due to a medical condition, you might want to re-evaluate your chastity relationship, or you might just want a bit of time off! Whatever the reason, don’t be afraid to put the brakes on and have some time outside the cage.

Permanent Chastity Doesn’t Mean 24/7

If you’re interested in permanent chastity, there’s a good chance you’ve read some stories by men who’ve been locked up “every day for the last two years”, “in chastity permanently for a decade now” or “can’t even remember when they last took the cage off”.

Let’s be blunt. These stories could be real, or they could be fake. Either way it doesn’t really matter. The important thing is that this isn’t what you should be aspiring to if you’re looking to make your chastity pledge permanent.

For a more healthy attitude towards long-term lockup, we need to reframe our view on what permanent chastity really is. Instead of thinking of it as a situation where the cage never comes off, think of it more as making chastity a permanent part of your lifestyle. You’re still committing to a long-term, permanent arrangement, but there’s much more to it than just the cage.

You might only wear the cage for a few hours a day, but if you do it every day for the rest of your life then it’s just as permanent as someone who supposedly wears one 24/7!

Instead of thinking of it as a situation where the cage never comes off, think of it more as making chastity a permanent part of your life.

Is Permanent Chastity Right For Me?

Regardless of how you approach the “permanent” aspect, it’s still a big commitment. Before agreeing to let someone have control over your penis long-term you should have a serious think about whether or not it’s what you really want.

If you’re relatively new to chastity, we’d recommend spending some time trying out the different aspects of chastity relationships, as well as different cages, before committing to something long-term. That way when you do, you’ll be sure that it’s something you’re going to enjoy.

You can also experiment with wearing the cage for different lengths of time. Rather than saying that you’re going to remain caged for a year, try two weeks or a month. After each period of lockup, take the cage off and have an honest and frank discussion with your Mistress (or just a good think if you’re a solo slave), and see whether or not it worked for you.

With the proper preparation, you’ll be able to create your own permanent chastity pledge that works for your relationship, and that you will actually enjoy after the initial excitement wears off.

It Still Sounds Good, How Do I Start?

If you’ve had any experience of starting a chastity relationship, then the process of starting a permanent chastity relationship shouldn’t be unfamiliar. As you’d expect, you’ll need to start with a conversation about what you want to get out of your pledge, and what the expectations will be.

It’s important to think carefully at this stage about what exactly your pledge will entail, as the things you decide here may be with you for a long time. Some of the things to consider are:

  • How often you’ll wear the cage
  • How long you’ll wear it for
  • The rules the slave is expected to follow
  • The expectations of the Mistress
  • When and how often cleaning will take place
  • Any punishments for misbehavior
  • Any rewards for good behavior
  • When and how often you’ll review the pledge

The last point is particularly important in a long-term chastity relationship. When wearing a cage permanently or regularly, it can be easy to keep going through the motions even if you’re not truly happy. A regular review gives both partners the opportunity to let the other know how they’re feeling, and if they’d like to make any changes to the relationship.

Choosing the Right Cage for Permanent Chastity

Another important part of your long term pledge is making sure you have the right cage. You’ll be wearing it a lot after all.

As a general rule, you’re going to want a cage that’s comfortable, not too heavy, and easy to wear for a long period. For most men, a lightweight silicone option will be best. If you’re not going to be wearing the cage 24/7 then you could choose a heavier metal model, but it will depend when and where you have to wear it.

Golden Cock Cage

Golden Chamber Metal Urethral Chastity

The Challenges of Permanent Chastity

Regardless of the kind of permanent pledge you are going for, there’s going to be some bumps along the way. This kind of relationship has plenty of challenges to face, including:

  • Chafing – Wearing a cage a lot can get quite uncomfortable, so it’s good to keep some lube and anti-chafing cream handy to help keep things comfortable.
  • Boredom – Once chastity becomes a part of your everyday routine, it can quickly lose it’s magic. To keep things interesting, you can swap between different cages, and make sure there’s plenty of slave and Mistress fun time.
  • Feeling Trapped – After you’ve started a long term commitment, it can be easy to feel trapped by it. If your pledge isn’t going how you imagined, and you’re not truly happy with it, then make sure to speak up.
  • Night Time Pain – When you start wearing a cage overnight, it’s usually going to be uncomfortable for a while. Men can’t control night time erections and getting them while caged can be quite painful. Don’t feel like you have to wear your cage overnight just for it to count as permanent.
  • Penis Shrinkage/Less Erections – If you’re wearing a cage long term, then you’re likely to experience both of these effects. They aren’t permanent though, and after a little freedom break your penis will quickly return to it’s former glory.

The Benefits of Permanent Chastity

Despite the many challenges you’ll face on your permanent chastity journey, it can be a very rewarding experience. Many of the benefits you’ll find in standard chastity relationships are heavily amplified by the weight of the commitment between the two partners.

In particular, the trust and emotional connection are much stronger in a long term pledge. Each partner must honor their commitments for it to work, and be willing to have open and frank conversations about any issues that may arise. This can lead to a much stronger, healthier relationship over time.

This kind of pledge also takes a huge amount of self control and discipline from the man, as it’s no longer just a fun, kinky activity but something that will always be around. As time goes on, a man might find himself much more focused, productive, and more able to achieve other goals in his life.

While staying in a cock cage 24/7/365 might not be a realistic goal for most men, there’s no reason a chastity pledge can’t become a permanent part of your life. Take your time, follow our advice, and most importantly, enjoy yourself. You might find that your new, permanent pledge lasts much longer than you expect!

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Michael Cole

Michael is the author of the Total Chastity Diary and has been in and out of chastity since his mid-thirties. He’s now 41. He lives and works in Boston, has a white-collar job, and is single by choice. 

“There’s nothing hugely special about me. I’d describe myself as your typical modern, forward-thinking guy. I enjoy sports, staying healthy, love my family and friends, and have a satisfying career that pushes me to work hard so I can enjoy some of life's luxuries. 

I’m whatever constitutes as “normal.” It just so happens that I also enjoy the feeling of putting my cock in a cage, leaving it there for a week or two, then reaping the benefits of being released from my cage. 

Starting my chastity journey felt like starting any other new hobby or interest. I wanted to make sure I was doing it right and had good equipment to help me achieve the results I wanted. But when I began looking into male chastity and cock cages, what I found was a lot of fetish talk. 

While I accept this is what male chastity means for some - dressing up as a sissy, being spanked by a Dominant and whatever - the kinky kicks aren’t what I’m into. 

My hope with the Total Chastity  Diary is to bring a more matter-of-fact voice to chastity experiences.”

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