Should You Wear Your Cage to the Gym? (Or Doctor's Office or Swimming Pool…)

Commitment is a key part of a chastity pledge, but how committed is too committed? Are there times you should take the cage off, even if you’re aiming to wear it all the time? Or is just picking a discreet cage good enough for this kind of situation?

Surprisingly, this is a bit of a hot topic…

Can You Really Wear a Cage 24/7

Permanent chastity is one of the driving fantasies for many men who start exploring male chastity. Having absolutely no control of their penis can become a goal, or even obsession, which must be achieved no matter what. But is it realistic?

Well… it depends.

Let’s compare the lives of two imaginary slaves:

Slave One: Works from home. Exercises outdoors. In good general health. Lives in a colder climate so can wear bulkier clothing. Drives and owns his own car. Married (to his keyholder). Doesn’t travel abroad.

Slave Two: Works in a garage. Exercises at the gym. Has a skin condition that requires regular doctor visits. Lives in a warmer climate so typically wears less clothing. Takes public transport. Single. Takes regular holidays and business trips to different countries.

Now we’ve obviously made these as different as possible to prove a point, but you can clearly see that for slave one there are almost no barriers to permanent cage wear. Nothing he regularly does will require him to remove the cage.

For slave two though, it’s a different story. At work he may need to change clothes in the same place as his colleagues. The doctor may need him to remove his clothes. After meeting a new woman, one thing might lead to another and before you know it she’s getting an interesting surprise. Even on public transport bumps and sharp turns could lead to him accidentally pressing the cage against someone else’s body.

All of these scenarios could lead to someone else either knowing that you’re wearing a cage, or even seeing it themselves. But is there anything wrong with that?

It’s All About Consent…

As with almost any kind of sexual fetish, it all comes back to the simple question of consent. But rather than making sure your partner consents to what you’re going to do together, this is a different kind of consent. Or more importantly, the lack of it.

To demonstrate this point, let's explore a different kind of example:

You are a vegetarian, and you’ve been invited to a friend’s house for dinner. They know you’re a vegetarian, but include meat in the dish they prepare. They don’t tell you the dish contains meat until after you’ve eaten it.

In this scenario, the vegetarian has not consented to eating meat, but was left no choice by their friend. In a similar way, many of the people who might see or feel your chastity cage might not have had the chance to consent to it until after it has happened. This can leave people feeling uncomfortable, offended, or even disgusted.

It Doesn’t Hurt Them, Why Should They Care?

Even if someone sees your cage while you’re getting changed in the gym, it’s not like they’re becoming involved in your chastity relationship, so why does it matter?

This is the main argument of men (or sometimes Mistresses) that feel like it is appropriate to wear a chastity device in any place, at any time. And honestly, it’s not wrong either.

There are plenty of everyday examples I’m sure you can think of where things happen that you don’t particularly like, and don’t want to be involved in, but you can’t do anything about them. Things like:

• Stepping in dog poop – You don’t own a dog, so why should you have to deal with their poop?
• Construction work – It’s not your house being fixed, so why should you have to put up with the noise?
• Smells from neighbors – Whether it’s certain types of foods, cigarette smoke or marijuana, you’re not the one eating/smoking it, so why should you have to smell it?
• Cleaning rotas – You didn’t make the mess, why should you clean it?

Some of these examples are a little more selfish than others, but the sentiment is the same. You have to put up with things that you don’t like, or don’t agree with. So it makes complete sense that you can apply the same logic to your chastity device, and essentially tell people to “deal with it”.

But that doesn’t tell the whole story…

Humiliation Fetishes and Exhibitionism

Unlike the other examples above, chastity is a sexual thing, and that carries some additional concerns. The main two are humiliation, and exhibitionism.

Men with a humiliation fetish are quite simply those who gain sexual pleasure or gratification by being humiliated (usually by their Mistress). Often this can involve putting them into scenarios where it’s more likely that they’ll get caught wearing their cage, leading to the feeling of humiliation.

Men with an exhibitionist streak will usually gain sexual pleasure or gratification from being openly sexual, and enjoy when people watch them take part in sexual activity. For chastity, this could quite simply mean that being seen in their cage is something that they enjoy.

In both cases, the man wearing the cage is deriving some kind of pleasure from the situation, essentially turning it into a sexual “scene”. The term scene is often used to describe a sexual situation among the BDSM community.

But one of the key tenets of BDSM is that everyone involved in a situation fully consents to what is about to happen. Does your doctor consent to being involved in your exhibitionist fetish before you drop your trousers? Do your workmates consent to being involved in your humiliation play before you take your pants off in the locker room?

In most cases… No.

Who Knows Who Will See

Another part of this discussion that I’ve seen brought up often is children. If you’re wearing your cage somewhere like the swimming pool or the gym, then there’s a reasonable chance that someone under the age of consent might see it.

Not only is this inappropriate, but it could lead to some awkward conversations for parents of younger children if they happen to notice your chastity cage. Can you imagine being asked “Dad why does that man have a metal willy?”

Unlike most of the other parts of the discussion around when it’s appropriate to wear a cage, this is one of the clearest. Children shouldn’t be exposed to sexual fetishes, so if you know they’re going to be there, it’s probably best to leave the cage at home.

But What About Permanent Chastity?

As you think more about your own life, it can seem like there’s so many places that it isn’t appropriate to wear your cage that permanent chastity is more of an illusion than a goal. As we discussed in our post on permanent chastity though, it’s not about completely giving up, and more about redefining the word “permanent”.

If you wear your cage 24/7, except three hours a week while you’re at the gym, does that mean it’s not permanent? Well unless you go to a very different gym to me, chances are that the time spent out of the cage isn’t really going to make any difference to your pledge.

If you’ve been caged for a month, but need to go for a check up with the doctor so you have to take the cage off for an hour, does that mean you have to reset the timer? Of course it doesn’t! Taking your cage off for a sneaky wank is something you control. A doctor’s appointment isn’t.

So rather than focusing so much on the time the cage needs to come off, focus more on the time that you have while you’re wearing it. After all, that’s the time you’ve given yourself to actually enjoy male chastity, so enjoy it!

So Should You Wear Your Cage To The Gym? (Or Pool, Or Doctor’s Office)

Back to the original question, and for me it’s a solid no. My chastity pledge is something for me and my Mistress to enjoy, and not something I want to thrust unknowing strangers into.

But for others, this answer will be different, and in general that’s okay. If you are brave enough to head out of the house caged though, be aware that some people might not like it. And before you go straight to the “deal with it, I can do what I want" response, have a think back to this article and see if maybe they might have a point.