When the Cage Comes Off…

Naturally, chastity focuses a lot on the cages. Locking up your penis to deny pleasure is an integral part of the process, but it’s not the whole story. Any slave and Mistress can tell you that it does have to come off sometimes. Without a reward, what is the “suffering” even for?

But when you finally reach the day the cage comes off, what then? A quick wank and then back into the cage seems is the answer for many slaves, but after all that anticipation it seems a little underwhelming. So can we make the part of chastity without a cage more exciting?

Why Uncage at All?

Putting aside the obvious things like cleaning and doctor’s appointments, the first question is why bother taking the cage off at all? Permanent chastity is a thing, and many men make it their goal to wear their cage for months or even years at a time with no release to look forward to. If this works for you, and you enjoy it, then great!

But often this kind of male chastity misses a lot of what makes the fetish special.

Wearing the cage, saying “Yes Mistress” and doing you chores show that you’re a subservient slave to your keyholder, but over a long period of time, with no changes to the formula, it simply becomes mundane. You don’t even need to think about your pledge anymore, it’s just something that happens.

When you reach this point, is it even submission anymore? In what way is a Mistress dominating you if she knows you’re just going to do what she expects everyday because it’s just a part of your life at this point.

There’s no anticipation.

This gets to the core of the “permanent chastity” issue. Without the anticipation of the next release, much of the dynamic between slave and dominant is lost. Without the anticipation, he doesn’t want to be uncaged. Without the anticipation, Mistress has no reason to tease him while he’s caged.

But what exactly do you do to make the times the cage is off special?

Sex (duh)

Your first instinct is going to be sexual, and it makes perfect sense. He’s been denied orgasm for a period of time, it makes sense to give him one as a reward.

As mentioned earlier, the simplest way to do this is letting him masturbate (or doing it for him), but after a period of months or even years this can start to seem a little unrewarding. Why bother going through periods of denial if the reward only lasts a couple of minutes?

So if you’re going to use sex as a reward, make sure you make it special! Some ways to do this include:

• Edging and Orgasm Denial – A great way to continue to assert dominance without the cage, and an experience he’s unlikely to forget any time soon.
• Sexy Lingerie – Show him what he’s been missing out on and give him something to remember during his next caged period
• Indulging Him – If he loves anal and you’re not a big fan, rewarding his patience with something that turns him on is a great reward.
• Let Him Take Control – After a period of subservience, giving him the chance to take the reins (even just for a short while) can be a great reminder that his pledge is worth it. It’s also a great way for him to show how much he’s learned about pleasing his Mistress by putting her pleasure first.
• Experimenting Together – While caged, sexual sessions might involve trying out toys or fetishes he can do with the cage on, but you could take the opportunity to try toys or fetishes that require him to be uncaged.

It’s a lot like dating. When you’re trying to impress your date you might pull out all the stops in the bedroom to make things memorable, but once you’re married things gradually become more laid back and you tend to have a rhythm to what you do in bed. Think of the day the slave is uncaged like the day of a date. You want to leave him coming back for more.

Freedom (at least a taste)

When the cage is on, Mistress is in control, and what she says goes. But for many slaves, this remains the reality even when the cage comes off.

A simple way to make his time uncaged more special is to release him from his commitments while the cage is off (or at least relax them). After all, the cage is the symbol of his pledge, so while he’s not wearing it, should he be subjected to the same rules?

There’s a few different ways to approach this. The easiest is simply to say that the rules of the pledge don’t apply while the cage is off. But complete freedom often isn’t as freeing as it seems, and many slaves given a “day off” will simply do the same things they normally would just without Mistress’s usual rules.

Adding a little more structure to his freedom is a good way to reward his time spent caged, but still keep it a memorable experience. For example:

• Decision Making – If things like what you have for dinner, where you shop, or who you spend time with is usually strictly controlled by Mistress, then letting the slaves make these choices can lead to a day that he’ll look forward to repeating after his next period locked.
• Scheduled Fun – While it sounds silly to schedule fun, giving him the freedom to take part in an activity he enjoys on the uncaged day can be a great reward. It can be as simple as letting him choose a move to watch at the cinema, or as extravagant as an experience day driving on a racetrack. The important part is he gets to choose.
• Loosen the Purse Strings – If strict financial control is part of his pledge, then having the freedom to enjoy some frivolous spending can feel like a breath of fresh air. Make sure to discuss this in advance though so he doesn’t go too crazy.
• Let Him Say No– Often during his time in the cage, simply saying “no” to his Mistress can be unthinkable. But giving the slave the chance to actually refuse instructions for a day can be one of the most exciting gifts an uncaged slave can enjoy.

Embracing the freedom of being uncaged is something that will be very personal to each slave and each Mistress. If this kind of thing seems like a good addition to your chastity dynamic, then it’s definitely worth discussing it in advance so the slave isn’t left feeling disappointed after his day of freedom.

Flip the Script

As anyone who has experimented with role reversal will know, changing the normal dynamic of the relationship can be a powerful tool to keep things interesting for both partners. You can also role reversal as an interesting way to reward a slave after a period of lockup by giving him a chance to take the dominant role, while the Mistress takes the submissive role.

Naturally the first place most slaves will think about utilizing this is in the bedroom, but you can apply it to all parts of the day. A Mistress can do the chores, drive the slave around, bring him treats and cook him his favorite dinner. Not only does this provide the slave with a memorable day off (that he’ll want to repeat in the future), but also shows that Mistress is just as willing to do the things she asks her slave to do.

Changing the formula in this way can be beneficial for more than a single day. Both people can see the challenges and feel the feelings that the other experiences every day. This can bring you much closer together as you gain a greater understanding of your partner.

When the shoe is on the other foot, it’s also much easier to see if you need to make any changes to your current arrangement. When the slave is making the same demands that the Mistress makes every day, it can be easier for her to see what’s reasonable and what might be a little too far. Adjusting the relationship after a day of role reversal can go a long way to making the slave feel more valued and important in the relationship, even though they take the submissive role.

Celebrate Their Success

After a period of staying caged and following the rules (no matter how long it was for), it’s easy for a Mistress to stay in “Mistress mode” and remain somewhat cold and detached. This works in some relationships, but in others it can leave the slave feeling undervalued. So instead, drop the Mistress facade for the day and celebrate!

How you do this is entirely up to you. Tamer celebrations might be something simple like a small gift, a new outfit that he’s been wanting, a meal at a nice restaurant or a takeaway. If it’s been a particularly long period of lockup and he’s managed to hit a milestone then a more extravagant celebration might be more appropriate.

For those of you lucky enough to be part of a local BDSM scene, or with friends who also practice chastity, there’s a great opportunity for a group celebration. Not only will this help the slave feel validated, but it can play a role in motivating other slaves to reach their goals so they can enjoy their celebration.

However you celebrate a slave’s success, just remember: this one time, it’s about him, not his Mistress.

Unlocking Is About More Than Orgasms!

Hopefully by now you can see the value in the time spent without a cage. By making it a day that the slave truly enjoys, he’ll be more likely to stick to the rules once the cage goes back on. So don’t be afraid to think outside the box and give him an unlock day he won’t forget.