What to Do With Your Chastity Keys. Ideas for Solo Chastity and FLRs
Before you lock your cock in a cage, you should decide what to do with your chastity keys. After all, they’re your ticket out of there, which makes them pretty damn important.
But settling on a key plan will depend on whether you’re self-locked or have a Keyholder, as there are slight differences.
In this guide, you’ll find tips tailored to both solo and Keyholder-led chastity. You’ll also learn about lock- and key-related predicaments that every locked-guy should think about, such as:
- Why emergency access is important.
- How to resist the temptation of the emergency key.
- What to do if you lose all the keys to your lock.
Outlining your key plan before starting your pledge will give you peace of mind. So let’s get your key plan in place.
A Quick Word on Different Types of Locks
There are only a handful of ways to secure a chastity cage. And only 2 of those need keys.
Padlocks – A small, stainless-steel padlock connects the ball trap cock ring to the tube, stopping escape. Most padlock-operated cages are key-operated, but you could always switch it out for a small combination padlock from a hardware store.
Barrel/cylinder lock – Built into the device, these are ideal if you need a discrete cage, as there’s no chance that anyone will hear the sound of a rattling lock. The only way to unlock them is by using the included key.
Other locking options such timed locks and plastic tags, do away with keys altogether. These are a great option if you don’t want to think (or worry) about what to do with a set of keys.
Key Tips for Solo Chastity Play
When you self-lock, the key holding responsibility sits with you. Keeping that control can feel reassuring. But you also need to stay true to yourself, which can be tough at times.
If you’re struggling for ideas on how to best treat that all-important key, here are some things to think about.
Separate Your Keys
Most cages come with at least 2 keys, and sometimes more. Your first job is to separate them, and designate one as your main key and the other as your emergency key. (If your cage comes with a third key, keep this as a backup.)
You then need to decide where to keep your main key.
Main Key Storage Ideas
The main key is your everyday key. It’s the one you use for regular unlocking duties, like when you:
- Reach the end of a locked period.
- Need to take the cage off for cleaning.
- Remove the cage during certain daily commitments or activities (e.g. going to work or the gym, visiting friends and family).
It needs to be accessible, but not so accessible that you can cave to its powers if the mood takes you. And you don’t want it stored some place that’s easy for someone to pick up or clear away either.
So with this in mind, good main key storage ideas could be:
- A small home safe, or combination key lockbox.
- A timed safe, set to only open after a certain time of day.
- An app-controlled safe, which works similarly to a timed safe.
Now your main key is safely tucked away, how about that emergency key?
Emergency Key Storage Ideas
An emergency key should be quick and easy to access in an unforeseen emergency. For example, you may suddenly need to go to hospital. You may be out and about, and the cage becomes dangerously uncomfortable. Or you and your pals get into a spontaneous game of touch football before beers.
Whatever the reason, the cage needs to come off, and it needs to come off now. So where do you put that key?
You might keep it:
- In your wallet or work bag.
- On your keyring with your home or car key.
- In a sealed envelope in your bag, car, or home.
These all sound pretty obvious. But when it comes to emergency keys it needs to be, because you need to be able to access them in a hurry.
Of course, this creates a dilemma.
How do you resist the temptation to use that emergency key?
Ask yourself, Is it really an emergency?
Solo chastity relies heavily on mental strength. You need to see out what you start and remember your reason for being in chastity. It’s normal to struggle with the chastity mindset, especially when you’re new to it or returning to the cage after being unlocked.
The key (pardon the pun) is to pause and ask yourself, ‘Is this really an emergency?’ And if you don’t think that will work, store it in a way that makes you think twice about accessing it. There are some great ideas for this on the chastity training subreddit.
Balloons and Glitter
Redditor alexdepijer suggests carrying your emergency key around in a deflated balloon that’s full of glitter. ‘When you cut or tear the balloon it’s going to be a glittery mess, so it will help you decide if the emergency is worth it.’
Laminate the Key
If you have a Keyholder, jum34980 suggests laminating the key onto a business card signed by your KH and putting it in your wallet. That way, your Keyholder will know if the key has been tampered with.
For solo chastity tweak this by laminating the key onto something semi-important to you. Ideally, it should be a keepsake you wouldn’t normally want to cut or rip, but would if it was an emergency.
For example, you could use a photo of someone you care about, or get something signed by a favorite celebrity or sports star. If you’re into CDs, you could laminate or stick it to the artwork of a favorite album. (Of course, you’d then need to be willing to carry it around for those ‘emergency’ sitiations.)
Use a Bank Note
Another great idea from alexdepijer is to ‘wrap the emergency key in a money note of your choice and tape it up with painters tape.’ They go on to explain how this keeps the key easily accessible in an emergency, but it’ll make you think whether it’s an emergency worth paying for.
Flexi Pipe and a Lock
Chastity keys aren’t like regular house keys. They can be quite small, and so we like this simple idea from Tardisy for making it easy to keep your emergency key in your pocket.
They put their key in a flexi pipe, and then use a combo lock to secure it. Holes on either side of the flexi pipe line up with the part of the key you loop onto a keyring. A lock is then passed through the key and flexi pipe holes, securing them altogether.
Tardisy uses a combination lock (which they’d have the code to for emergencies), but if they can’t enter the code themselves, it should be easy enough for an emergency services crew to cut through it.
Key Tips for When You Have a Keyholder
Handing your keys to someone else is a symbol of trust and devotion. And for the person holding them, it’s a great responsibility. Where they keep your key may depend on your relationship dynamic, and whether or not you spend a lot of time together.
Main Key Storage Ideas
This might look similar to storage options for those into solo chastity. But the difference is that only the Keyholder has access to any codes for safes or lock boxes.
Locking it out of sight is one option, although those in a female-led relationship may want the key in plain sight as a form of tease and torment.
The Keyholder could wear it on a necklace, or as a charm on a bracelet. Or invest in a locket for the key to sit inside.
If jewelry isn’t their thing, Keyholders might keep it in:
- A tamper-proof envelope sealed and signed by them.
- An ice block in the freezer.
- A secure box.
- A sealed glass container that needs to be smashed (safely) to be opened.
- A safe or box locked with a plastic-numbered chastity lock.
Handling Emergencies When You Have a Keyholder
You may not be with your Keyholder when your cage needs to come off in a hurry. So you need to make sure your chastity agreement includes terms about accessing your emergency key without your Keyholder being present. After all, safety comes before kink. And most professional Dominants who hold a key will insist you carry an emergency key with you.
The ideas for where to put the emergency key can be the same as those for solo players. But along with deciding how the key will be stored, you should also both agree on:
- Your shared definition of an emergency, and in what circumstances you can access the emergency key to unlock.
- When you will relock.
- How to show your Keyholder you’ve replaced the cage and the emergency key (assuming they can’t instantly reset the emergency key safeguards).
What to Do if You Lose Your Key
As mentioned earlier, most devices come with at least 2 keys—your main one and a spare. That way, if you lose one you’ve still got another way out. But let’s imagine the worst-case scenario where both keys are lost. What do you do then?
The first thing you should do is take a deep breath and try not to panic. There are still ways you can get out of your cage.
Find and Order a Replacement
Most device manufacturers and retailers have already considered this scenario and sell replacement keys and locks. If you don’t need to get out in a hurry, just return to the source and order a new set of keys.
Note: If you can’t find replacement keys for sale, you can simply reorder the same cage. The keys for the new cage will work for your current one.
Ease Out of the Cage
If you’re in a ball-trap cage without any anti-escape mechanisms in place (such as a piercing or tether spout), you may be able to slip out of your cage without damaging yourself or your device.
Before trying this, shrink your member and testicles as much as possible. Take a cold shower or bath, or (very, very) briefly apply a cool pack or ice wrapped in a towel to your groin. This will (hopefully) make it easier to slip out the back.
Break the Cage or the Lock
Breaking your cage isn’t ideal, and so it really should be your last resort. But if you’ve lost your keys and need to get out it might be the only option. A small lock cutter will easily cut through a small chastity padlock. But if your cage is fitted with a barrel lock you’ll need to break the pins inside the lock.
Where Will You Keep Your Keys?
Having a key plan is as important as choosing your cage and making your pledge. Whether you play alone or with a partner, the significance and symbolism of them—as well as their practical importance—means they’re part of your journey.
To see our full range of chastity key storage options, head to our chastity accessories section.
